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Self-concept in children is essential. It is how they value themselves especially in later life. Sense of oneself during childhood is usually formed by interactions with family members and family circumstances. They often learn their individual worth and rate of competency in their family. How they perceive themselves change as they go through developmental stage. They will reach the age when they will acquire experiences from their immediate environment and know the worth of people around them. Only then will they see their self-image and set down identity.
1. Build Open lines for Communication. Establish articulation widely. Show willingness to talk about certain subject may it be serious or petty. The importance of developing mutual respect between children and parents is needed in nurturing relationship and trust within family circles.
2. Encourage children to express their Feelings. Give them the opportunity to appropriately demonstrate their feelings through words and actions. Allow them to rake-off their problems, anxieties, and even happiness. Children who do not have a port to release what they want to share eventually become timid and self-destructive.
3. Listen to children and use words they understand. Lend your ears to make them at ease in imparting what they have to say to get their message right so you can act appropriately. Do not get your wires crossed by using languages they can't comprehend as not to confuse them of what you are trying to relay.
4. Let children explore their talents and accept their limitations. Take pride in your kid's abilities and assets. Encourage them to develop their talents and strengths. Nonetheless, be realistic in your expectations and do not compare your children to others. It will only put pressure on them.
5. Celebrate achievement. It is important to recognize your children's accomplishments and you can do this dozens of different ways. A simple tap on their shoulder lets them become aware that their efforts are actually paying off. Without doing so, they could end up feeling underappreciated and incompetent over the haul. Congratulate, treat, offer a nice break, or even share the good news. Sincere expressions such as "Hey, you did a great job!" and "I'm proud of you!" are also strong reinforcements.
6. Provide unconditional love. Above and beyond, give all the love that you can give to your kids and allow them to feel your limitless affection. In spite of their weaknesses or pitfalls, you should first and foremost accept your offspring without weighing things out. As they say, "parents were the only ones obligated to love you." By providing genuine passion, they will feel defended and confident, hence, may lead to affirmative self-construction.
7. Teach by example. Many parents insist that their kids should be perfect, even though these parents are not. How can children imitate their moms and dads in this kind of scenario? Parents greatly influence their kid's self-perception and so live as examples in ways you wish to become of them, teach them consistent moral teachings, and share soul-shuttering experiences. However, this does not necessarily follow positively as everyone has his or her own faculty to discern. Furthermore, even children from sound homes stray and resist, but what counts most is never to give up without a fight.